What do you think causes prolonged anger/hatred?

I’m sure there are a lot of justfied reasons to be angry sometimes, but I think the unwillingness to let go of the situation boils down to self pride.

Here are some situations…

Getting cut off during a traffic jam – You could get angry because you think you have more of a right to be on time than everyone else. You think you’re the only one that’s in a rush. But sometimes we fail to forget that all of us have been asshole drivers at one point or another. We all have cut off people whether it was on purpose or not.

Jealousy, envy – You could get angry because you think you deserve just as much as everyone else. I would encourage you to really think about what makes you happy because it is definately NOT the materialistic things in life.

The feeling you were betrayed, abandoned – There is perfectly every right for you to feel angry at the person. And I do think you need to let it all out rather than bottling it up. But after some point, it gets unhealthy if you are unwilling to let go. When it comes down to it, you’re angry because you don’t think you should be treated that way. Well I agree with you! You absoluetely should never be treated in that way, but that doesn’t mean you have to keep your anger. Let it go and move on (easier said than done of course).

Small irritations/annoyances – When I had 3 speeding tickets within one year of college (5 points, 2 over 100 mph, $1000+ in fines) and then add on the accident that I got in shortly after. I was feeling like crap. Why do I keep getting caught speeding. I was angry because I felt singled out. Eventually I put things in perspective. I got over the whole “why me” because I realized that everyone goes through their own shit. There is not one person out there that can escape all the small crap that happens to our life. We just have to deal with it and know that its going to happen from time to time. There is much more serious things going on in the world (wars, poverty, natural disasters) that we forget what we should be thankful for.

Anger builds on anger and is more easily triggered as it builds. Scientists have actually found that anger kills our body – causing damage to our arteries and is a significant factor to heart disease and cancer.

Ignoring your anger is not the solution. The best solution involves preventative measures – culminating inner conntentment and happiness. When you are angry, research has shown that actively challenging, logically analyzing, and reappraising the thoughts that trigger the anger can help dissipate it. Techniques such as shifting perspectives (putting yourself in their shoes) or looking at different angles of a situation can also help. And when neither works, it may be best to take a “time out” and revisit the problem at a later time.

Do you agree? If not let me know why. Thanks!

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~ by toekneelc on February 6, 2007.

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